What can I do that is fun, and that can throw her off guard?
Hi Ken,
Our adopted daughter has RAD. She has been with us for 2 years. We finally have an in-home therapist who understands her condition. However, she suggested doing something fun to throw her off guard. Any suggestions? Right now, she is confused by our calmness.
Thanks,
Tammy
Tammy, it sounds like you have a very good therapist since that’s an excellent suggestion. If you look at the left sidebar of this blog, near the top you’ll see a section called “Random Quotes” or something like that. Everytime you refresh your browser, it will display another quote – although most of them are not so much quotes as they are suggestions of things that a parent might try with their child, some of which I stole from my next suggestion, which is a book called “99 Ways to Drive Your Child Sane” by Brita St. Clair. It is a small, easy-to-read, but excellent book that is packed with good ideas that you can have fun with, and still be effective. That would be my strongest suggestion.
While it is difficult to sustain sometimes, the most effective thing that I found was to remain calm. Because the disorder in your child wants the opposite of calmness on your part, it’s never good to feed the disorder, although I think you can forgive yourself if you do once in awhile.
– ken